What Every Bride Should Know about the Buck’s Night

Known by a variety of terms, ranging from a stag party to a bull’s party, is the buck’s night or bachelor party, which is a party arranged close to the time when a young man gets married (and can no longer engage in some of the activities his partner disapproves of). Traditionally this party is arranged by the best man, or by a friend who has extensive knowledge of partying.

Activities differ from country to country, but usually involve a night – or in some cases even a whole weekend – spent in the company of his male friends, accompanied by the consumption of copious amounts of alcohol and in many cases, a stripper. There are no hard and fast rules, however, and variation occurs depending on the personality and inclination of the groom. A very popular trend of late has been an entire shift away from the debauchery of past buck’s nights, to an evening or more ( even a weekend) of men enjoying men’s pursuits, like a hunting trip or a fishing expedition or white water rafting together.
So, what does the bride need to know about the buck’s night?

It is going to happen, so your attitude will go a long way towards making it a memorable, but guilt-free event for your groom. Don’t believe everything you hear or have been told. Trust your man and allow him to enjoy the bucks night. It is, after all, a way for him still to show that he is ‘one of the guys’ even though he has committed to a married way of life.

Inevitably, there will be more than the usual amount of drinking and quite possibly a stripper. Your negative attitude to this can ruin the evening for him. He wants to make you happy – he has asked you to marry him! So, imposing unrealistic expectations or limitations, will mar what could just have been an evening of exuberance and letting off the steam of pre-wedding jitters. However, it is a good idea to spell out your limitations in terms of his behaviour (within reason).

The worst thing that you can do on the bucks night is to stay at home and fret. Possibly this would be the best time for your own hen’s night, but at the very least go out with some friends for a meal or a movie. Stewing about what is happening is going to be far worse than anything real.

Ultimately, remember that he has chosen you above all others, so let him have this last evening of not being accountable.