Sunday, December 16, 2012

10 Great ideas for your engagement party


Trends

The traditions of your parent’s era are well and truly over. Engagement parties these days can be anything. From small gatherings of close family and friends to large extravagant parties, to theme evenings or even a game night. With the high costs of a wedding reception, many couples use the engagement party as an opportunity to invite guests that will not be invited to the wedding reception. That means that in some cases, you will need to give consideration as to which guests will be invited to which functions even at the engagement stage.
When to celebrate

Used to be that the engagement party was held on the same day as the official announcement. These days, this is generally limited to the closest friends and family. The real engagement party is then held up to 3 months after the announcement.
The Budget

With the whole wedding usually on a strict budget, the same discipline applies to the engagement party. Don’t get too carried away as the wedding is likely to cost more than you might think. Once you have an understanding of how much the entire wedding will cost, you can easily decide on a realistic budget for your engagement party.
Pick a Theme

Choosing a suitable theme will make planning the party a lot easier. You may want to choose a theme that will set the scene for the wedding itself. For example, if you are planning a beach wedding, then a beach theme for the engagement party would be fun and exciting. Other theme ideas could be the season that the wedding will take place in; or something reminiscent of how you met, or a specific interest that you share as a couple.
Choose a Venue

Budget and size of guest list will determine if you use a wedding venue or a home party. There are pro’s and con’s for both. Consider things like

    the work involved in setting up and cleaning up
    decorations
    neighbours
    time limits
    facilites for food preparation and serving

If you have a member of the family or friend who has a suitable home where the party could be hosted, then this is an ideal option. It will make it more intimate, relaxed and save some money.
Food and Drink

The time of day and the style of the party will determine the amount of food and drink required. Anything around mealtimes will require substantial amounts of food. If you are having the party at a venue check the alcohol prices carefully. Some offer packages on a per head basis, others will charge per drink. It is quite common to set a limit on the bar tab and serve only beer and wine, as spirits are expensive. Don’t forget to cater for those who don’t drink alchohol.
Running Sheet

A great idea is to have a running sheet so that you can time and coordinate things like speeches, the serving of food, entertainment etc. So that you enjoy the party as much as possible, make sure that everyone who needs one, has a running sheet, and understands what needs to be done by whom.
Fun Ideas
Games

Depending on the mix of people invited to the party, you may want to have one or two games planned to make the party fun and memorable. There are many resources on the Internet for suitable games. Bear in mind that there may be preparation and planning required for the games to go off successfully.
Pictures

Your marriage is a memorable event and should be thoroughly recorded. Funds permitting, a wedding photographer is the way to go. That way you can rest assured that you will get a good set of photo’s. Another great idea is to get as many of your friends to bring their digital cameras and take pictures. After the event, get them to copy their pictures to a CD or DVD for you to keep or post on your wedding website. or Facebook page Disposable Cameras are still available and are also a fun way to get lots of imprompt shots of your guests having a fun time.

Entertainment at an engagement party is not usually necessary. If you think you need it here are some great ideas:

    Music: Band, quartet, or Singer. A DJ is another alternative.
    Fireworks
    Magician
    Cartoonist
    Comedian

Thank You Notes

Gifts at engagement parties have become more common nowadays. If so Thank You notes are essential. If not, a Thank You note for attending is the correct etiquette. Include these with your invitation package so that you get the best possible deal as well as ensuring that the stationery that you use is consistent.

Pelican Fly!

Music: Instrumental rockers Pelican soar without a singer to weigh them down.

An audience feels comfortable watching a front man. Go to YouTube.com and watch any clip of Queen performing and, more than likely, Freddie Mercury’s stage romping will overshadow any guitar prowess of Brian May. As pop culture dictates, image is everything and every popular band needs a charismatic front man to represent to the masses suffering from iPod-induced musical-ADD. Even as recent as AFI’s spin-kicking singer Davey Havok, people now seem more at ease to place a band’s entire personality in the hands of the lead singer.

But there was a time when bands could get along just fine without singers. Everyone remembers jazz (even though a lot of those acts were orchestrated by a single man: Woody Herman, Lionel Hampton, etc.), right? Moving ahead, surf-rock bands from the ’60s, such as The Surfaris and The Ventures, gave us hits like “Walk Don’t Run” and “Wipeout” without singing one word into the microphone (unless you’re counting that maniacal child-voice that announces, “Hahahaha … wipeout!” before the drum solo starts). Don’t forget the mainstream techno boom of the late ’90s that spawned acts like Underworld and Daft Punk who, despite the occasional sound-bite vocals, focused mainly on the beat (the former went as far as to don robot costumes to disassociate any personal identities with their music).

And this is why bassist Bryan Herweg is so confused when people think his instrumental band Pelican is a new or novel idea.

“People act like instrumental music is a new thing. Jazz, fusion—so many bands have been doing that for a long time,” says Herweg in a phone interview. “No one in the band wants to sing. It wasn’t like this conscious decision to not have a singer; we just never found one, really. We always wanted one. If ever we were impressed by someone, we’d take them, but it never really worked out. We think the music is fine so far without it. We’re instrumental, and that’s how it is.”

Herweg’s simplistic response still may not satisfy critics and fans, mainly because it leaves Pelican’s music unclassifiable—and that makes an audience almost as uncomfortable as not having front man to watch. Rather than the easily discernable jazz, techno or surf categories, Pelican owes their style to equal parts metal, ambient, pop and hardcore. But, without a screamer to signify metal or a whiner to signify pop, Pelican sits comfortably on the fence. One thing that fans can agree on, however, is that Pelican’s music is epic.

The first two albums of the Chicago-based band Australasia and The Fire in Our Throats Will Beckon the Thaw found the band taking full advantage of their instrumentality, building cinemalike tension to an explosive finale and 10-minute songs were the norm, a sound reminiscent of Hydra Head labelmates Cave In. But their latest album City of Echoes replaces some of their sludgier aspects with more pop sensibilities, as well as cutting the track times in half without compromising potency. But, as if to quell claims of the band “selling out,” or making their music more accessible, Herweg insists that their new approach is for more pragmatic reasons … like being able to play more than a couple songs each night.

“Sometimes we’d only be playing one song during a show,” Herweg says. “So we decided to shorten them up, and it’s amazing how energetic that is.”

“We don’t try to make epic songs,” continues Herweg. “But there definitely is a big cinematic element to our music, and it would make sense for us to do movie music. And, being an instrumental band, we try to make moods, and we’re all avid movie watchers. We’ve always been open to doing any movie soundtracks, but we haven’t had any offers. Hopefully in the future we will.”

When questioned if his band had any particular movie scenes in mind when writing some of the more epic … er, cinematic parts of City of Echoes, without hesitation, Herweg happily responds, “First Blood.”

Booking a Photographer

A skillfully photographed wedding album will be one of the most adored and precious items that is kept and loved many years after your wedding day. As well as conveying the emotions, romance and humour of the day, they are a testament to your relationship. Needless to say, such an important part of your lives should be captured by a highly qualified professional wedding photographer.
So, what do we need to know?

Establishing open communication and an honest, helpful relationship with your wedding photographer is important because your photographer is an important part of the day. The better photographers do more for you than simply take photographs. They help with planning, timing and even with the fine details.It is important to have an understanding of the industry and basic business practices before embarking on a search for a professional wedding photographer. The following information provides a behind the scenes understanding and should be used as a guide to help you select your photographer.
How much should we budget?

When starting out, it is hard to know what wedding photography costs, because photographers are not prone to advertising their prices. An important factor to remember is that any price quoted will be a starting coverage or package price only. Every wedding is unique, as is every couple. Generally, the prices between different wedding photographers reflect their qualifications, experience, skill, and creative style. The quality of the overall product and level of service will also vary with price.

Basically, like many services, you generally get what you pay for. Therefore, the more paid, the greater the quality of photography and professionalism. Most wedding photographers will have a starting package or coverage which allows for the time that will be spent together on the day and will either include a basic amount of photographs in a basic album (package) or a credit that will go towards an album afterwards (coverage). Starting amounts are usually around $1500 and generally will provide only about 20 to 30 photographs. Remember these are basic or starting amounts only, and generally do not include all the extras you will want. Also, generally 20 to 30 photographs is not enough photographs to tell a full story of your wedding day, so most couples want more and better than the basic album.

You won’t really know what and how many pictures you will need until you see the images, so you need to budget for the extras of additional photographs and a better album. Prices can range anywhere up to $5000 for a full photography package. Great photographs are hard to resist. A decision to employ a photographer based purely on price however, and not skill, generally ends in heartbreak, so think carefully before choosing a cheaper option. You will invest a lot of money on a wedding and all will be for only that one day, except the photography. This will be the one thing that you will have forever that will bring all the wonderful memories of that one day back. If money is an issue however, organise to get a better wedding photographer, but spend a little less time with them on the day and choose a few less photographs. It will be the quality photography you remember, not the cost.
Why does wedding photography cost this much?

Photography today is expensive today because of labour and material costs. Good professional photographers also use professional equipment, film, labs and albums and unlike amateur products, these are higher in cost. There is the photographers high overheads and their time to consider. Even though you may only see them for about 15 hours before, during and after the day, they will also spend at least 30 to 40 hours producing your album. You really though, are paying for the value of a photographers style, experience, qualifications and expertise and not just for time, materials and overheads.
How should we choose a photographer?

A referral from family or friends is a good starting point. Also browse through Bride Online's Gallery or through our huge list of Photographers in our wedding directory.These can be sorted according to your location. From these sources it is best to only choose two or three photographers to start with. Picking more at the beginning will only be confusing. A lot of studios are now single operations, meaning there is only one photographer and they are usually the owner. Some have more than one photographer, and some are fairly high volume studios that call in part-time photographers to shoot for them. When choosing a studio like this it is important to meet the person that will be photographing your wedding so you can establish a trust based relationship before you even book with the studio.

Make sure the work you are viewing is that wedding photographers work and look at complete weddings and a full set of the original images and not just the best shots from various weddings.You cannot pick a photographer based on a brochure or a phone call price enquiry. The only way to establish the value is to meet with them, so make an appointment with the studio. In the initial enquiry allow about an hour so you can base a decision on the style, creativity and quality of the photos and albums as well as the compatibility and qualifications of the photographer. As photographers work weekends and some have days as a break through the week, evening appointments can often be arranged. Try to select one near to your place so that arrangements can be made easily and will be much flexible. Search for Wedding photographer Melbourne, Wedding photography Sydney or Brisbane or enter your locality along with the search term and you would find one definetly nearby your area.
All photographers are qualified aren’t they?

One such qualification is the Australian Institute of Professional Photography’s (AIPP) Accreditation process. AIPP Full Members must go through an accreditation process where their portfolio is assessed to make sure their work is up to a certain standard. To find an Accredited AIPP photographer in your area log on to www.aipp.com.au and go to their Find a Photographer section.
Why should I even bother booking a photographer when my Uncle Harry has a great camera?

Remember, it’s not the great camera that takes the photo, it’s the photographer. Although a friend or family member may be a great amateur photographer, they will not have the experience, equipment or knowledge of a professional photographer. Quality wedding photography does not happen by chance. It is created by a specialised professional who has a creative eye and a genuine love of people and wedding photography. Your photographer will also need to co-ordinate the flow of the day, know all the types of shots that need taking and must be able to do all of this in variable weather and sometimes difficult time constraints.

A specialist wedding photographer can provide a fantastic story telling role and will be able to help you before during and after the day. Before you dismiss the thought of using a professional photographer for financial reasons, perhaps look at ways you may be able to afford one. You may be able to re-prioritise the wedding budget, or you could ask guests to provide money towards the photography as a gift. Some photographers have credit vouchers and you can include them on the bridal gift ideas register. Most wedding photographers also offer layby to spread the payments for you.
When should I book my wedding photographer?

It is a good idea to start looking and booking your wedding photographer as soon as you have decided on a wedding date. It is common to book a photographer 12 to 18 months (or longer) in advance.The busy wedding times are from September to May and Saturdays are highly sought after. Remember, it is worth booking this far in advance to get the photographer you want. When you have found the photographer that you are comfortable with, pay the deposit to ensure you have the photographer that you want, on the day that you want.
Should we sign a contract with our wedding photographer?

Most definitely. This is your assurance that the studio will honour its commitment to you. A contract is nothing more than an agreement confirming all the things the photographer has explained to you. There should be no surprises and therefore no reason not to sign. Before you do sign, make sure you have all the relevant information as to individual print, album and page pricing, cancellations, payments etc. Make sure you understand everything that you are signing.The wedding photographer should have all the information in writing for you (called full disclosure). If there is anything that you are unsure about, and that hasn’t been explained, don’t book. Wedding photography is very unique and there is a lot of trust you place in your photographer for their future performance. There is also the trust the photographer places in you. The contract covers both yourself and the photographer for your upcoming wedding.
Why do we have to pay up front?

It is normal practice for your photographer to ask for a deposit, and the rest of the money before your actual wedding. The booking deposit is usually 50% of the package or coverage, and sometimes more. The reason for this up front payment, is that you are ensuring that the photographer you have chosen will be exclusively available to you for your chosen day. Also the photographer starts working for you from the day you pay the deposit. The remaining amount is due before the wedding, so that you will be able to view your photographs when you return from your honeymoon.Remember your package is not all you will spend on photography, as you will be investing more on your album afterwards.

So paying the package up front, isn’t really paying for everything, Wedding photography is very unique and paying beforehand is also the photographers insurance. The photographer is turning away other weddings on your day because they are only available to you. For instance, if a couple separated before or shortly after the wedding (which is not unheard of) the photographer is left with a day not booked, or worse, has a set of unwanted photographs.
What happens after I book?

You should receive written and/or verbal communication regarding the procedures the studio will take to ensure that you get what you paid for. If there are any aspects of the wedding that you think would effect the photography, ensure that you tell the studio prior to arranging details. If you wish to have pre-wedding photographs taken, you will need to advise your photographer at least three months prior. The pre-wedding photographs are a fantastic idea, especially if you haven’t any photographs of yourselves and are a great way to start your album and have some lovely wall portraits.

The studio should contact you prior to your wedding day to make a pre wedding appointment to discuss the fine details with you such as timing, locations and any special photographic styles or techniques you would like. When deciding on how long you will require your photographer on the day, remember, the longer the photographer stays, the more photographs are taken. If you want to save, then keeping the photographer up until the start of the reception is ample.
How much time should we set aside for photography?

The amount of time will vary with each wedding, however it is a good idea to discuss with your photographer what would be appropriate prior to booking your church and reception times. Things to keep in mind are the size of your bridal party, family, length of service, travel time and what locations you have in mind to travel to. You will need around one and a half to two hours free photographic time (excluding travel) after the service in order to do family groups, bridal party and your more personal shots at one or two locations.
But we hate posing for photographs!

Many couples prefer to have their wedding captured candidly. That is to say, they don’t want to pose for photographs. However, there is a misconception that a wedding can be successfully photographed totally candidly. Candid photographs can be taken whilst your attention is elsewhere but there are times during the day that you will need to be directed or posed. It actually requires more time and takes a very skilled photographer to both capture and create the atmosphere, mood and feeling that enables a candid feel to arise.A good wedding photographer will make people feel comfortable and will be able to "pose" you so your images will then look candid or unposed.

The directed photographs are important in an album, as they gather and include the family and bridal party. It is rare to have you and all of your family, or friends or bridal party and even the two of you in a candid situation looking good at the one time at a wedding. You will need to cooperate with the wedding photographer and allow yourselves to be comfortably directed by them. That is the skill of the better photographers and this is what you should look for. It is also what you are paying for.
What happens after the wedding?

In most cases the studio will produce a set of viewing prints (either proofs, previews or originals) to assist you in making your purchasing decisions. There have always been many ways that these prints are presented and you should ask to see samples. Remember that there is no such thing as the proverbial free lunch, and if the studio includes the set of prints in the initial package deal, you really have paid for them anyway. These prints are costly for a studio and if you are to keep them then expect to pay for them.Most studios will expect that you purchase an album, although some studios have options where you don’t have to. Studios will be very well set up to help you with the album making process, and most photographers view it as a major part of the creative process. Your album is very personal, and there are many variations to choose from.

The album planning process generally takes four to six hours. This is generally done at the photographers prior to the initial prints leaving the studio. This is because they are usually loose to make it easy to do the plan and the photographer can help you with the creative design of the album. An album is a excellent way to finish the creative process and the final product is immensely rewarding.It keeps your photographs safe and clean and allows you to view your wedding in a logical sequence. The photographer's album is an excellent way to keep your treasured memories together and display them as a coffee table presentation.
So what if I have a problem with my photographer?

If you do encounter a problem, try to discuss this calmly and rationally with the photographer or the studio. If you feel your problem has not been rectified, then put your concerns in writing. If there is still not a solution by this stage, then find out if the photographer is a member of an organisation such as the AIPP. By contacting the organisation and detailing your problem in writing, they will in turn contact the photographer if they are a member.The organisation can also help with advice, and view the work and be a mediator. If you discover that your photographer is not a member, the organisation may not be able to help. It will still be beneficial to record a written complaint as it will tarnish the photographers record if they wish to join in the future. If after this course of complaint, your problem is still unresolved there is the Office of Fair Trading (Consumer Affairs) and after this the small claims tribunal. However, by choosing a qualified specialised wedding photographer, you are very unlikely to encounter problems.
24 tips on how to avoid frustration and achieve great photographs.

1) Book a qualified specialised wedding photographer early (usually 12 to 18 months prior).

2) Establish an open communication and discuss what you want and what can be achieved.

3) Be aware of limitations and have realistic expectations.

4) Be on time, so plan well and allow extra time for unexpected delays.

5) Rehearse the ceremony and work with the priest to obtain professional photographs.

6) Plan positioning and organise a coordinating person for civil ceremonies.

7) Have earlier services in non daylight saving time ie. the end of March to the end of October, to allow for light for the photography (book usually one to two pm services).

8) Have wet weather alternatives for photos and out door ceremonies.

9) Allow enough time to comfortably do the photography (usually one and a half to two hours).

10) Involve the family and bridal party, working together to cooperate with the photographer.

11) Plan the times and meeting spots with family for the photography locations to avoid delays and disappointment with missing people. Supply Melway map numbers prior to the day to help find the locations.

12) Plan transport for family and bridal party to get to these locations quickly.

13) Supply Melway map numbers and photography locations to the car drivers.

14) Designate key people from each side to help coordinate the family involvement for the photography.

15) Don't allow family and friends to shoot in front of the photographer as it spoils your professional photographs.

16) Organise some drinks and snacks for the photography shoot and bring them with you.

17) Plan, obtain permission, book and if required, pay for any special places you wish to go for photography

18) Book a professional makeup artist and go for a trial. Ask to keep the makeup a flat base to avoid shine. Don't do it yourself, be pampered on the day.

19) For the groom and attendants - shave on the morning after a couple of days growth.

20) Provide cover up for the groom and attendants to blend in shaving rash and blemishes.

21) Book a professional hairdresser. Go for a trial. Keep the hair off the face with no loose pieces. Use lots of pins and spray to keep control in the wind. Loose hair blowing across your face spoils your photographs.

22) Use lots of pins and spray for the veil to avoid falling out.

23) Coordinate with the florist to have buttonholes (and a spare) and the brides etc. flowers, delivered to the correct locations before the photographer arrives. Have the florist identify whose flowers are whose.

24) Most importantly, because of the little detail pre-wedding planning, relax, enjoy and have fun with your photographer.

The Emergency Kit

Be prepared and understand that minor emergencies can and do arise. Don't panic however - if you are well prepared these situations won’t amount to more than a slight disturbance.  Prepare yourself a wedding 'emergency kit’ and you will be able to handle any problems with style and grace.

Some things to include

Your emergency kit can include anything you think you might need on the wedding day. Some ideas include:
  • In any situation, an extra pair of pantyhose is always a good backup to have. If you do find a snag or run in your stockings, dab some clear nail polish on it. If the damage is beyond repair, simply put on your spare pair.
  • Safety pins will come in handy if you get an unexpected tear. They will also come in handy if you want to quickly bustle up a train.
  • Pack an emery board. If you break a nail, you can quickly file it down. You might also want to include some nail polish so you can touch up your nail colours if necessary.
  • A needle and thread is extra handy in case you need to do some emergency sewing. You'll be glad you have this if some beading or sequins on your gown become undone.
  • In case of small cuts, pack a few band-aids that match your skin tone. If the cut doesn't require a band-aid, pack tissues. These will also come in handy when you cry.
  • Bad hair days do happen! A small bottle of gel or hairspray will help tame your hair. Bobby pins and clips are also good for a quick fix.
  • Keep your smile bright and breath fresh with a travel size toothbrush, toothpaste and some breath mints.
  • Pack your purse and make sure you have a little bit of money for emergency phone calls etc.
  • Aspirins are a good idea to save you from any headaches you (or your bridesmaids) might have on the day.
  • Tuck a few crackers or cookies in a small plastic bag. You might be too busy to eat during the day. If you feel faint or lightheaded, have a bite. A small bottle of water is also a good idea. Do not pack juice, as this could spill and stain your dress.

Insider's Guide to hen's nights


Brides are often a little confused about what is happening on their Hen's Night and end up following a group of women with their own agenda.

Nothing wrong with that, but if you are clever, you can have a perfect evening and do what you actually wanted to do.

The secrecy surrounding the planning of a Hen's night usually means that you have very little input, but here is how to get the night you want: simply ask for it! Your maid of honour and those responsible for planning your night will be more than happy with suggestions coming from you. It is how you introduce your suggestions that will make them feel they are still in control.

The trusted online poll comes to mind where you answer questions. Search round and find some fun polls on the internet. You will find many sites that allow you to create and send your own poll too if you can not find the right one for your plan.

Make a list of questions that will show your preferences and choices for a perfect hen's night. Also include what you really do not want like a stripper as old as your dad. Answer all the questions and then forward this via your friend's address to all your friends as one of those quick answer fun things to do. Your answers will be studied for clues - guaranteed. This way your friends know what you want and can plan ahead with their 'secret' information.
Question suggestions for your poll:



    I prefer a night without alcohol. Yes/ No
    Public bars are out of this world choices. Yes/ No
    Beauty spa for a day? Now you are talking! Yes / No
    Loud music and lots of dancing please. Yes / No
    Fun outfits with a theme are just great. Yes / No
    Public transport means we can have a party without fear. Yes / No
    Gifts should be cash towards my honeymoon. Yes / No
    Invite the boys along? Yes / No
    My co workers are not my friends. Yes / No
    Tea and cake with loads of roses and style. Yes / No

Creating such a fun poll you not only discover yourself what you actually will enjoy most, you also tell others in a nice way what will work for you and what not.
Here are a couple of things not to with this:

    Do not make this a serious list that takes away the spontaneity of those planning your event.
    Do not sound like a dominatrix that is laying down the law – keep it fun and light hearted.
    Do not analyse every answer from your friends to see if they differ from you. They will and that is why we are such an interesting species.
    Most Importantly, Enjoy your evening out!

Chosing Your Wedding Flowers


When choosing your wedding flowers there are a few things you need to consider… Yes, you may LOVE peonies but….

    Do they go with your overall theme?
    Do they go with your dress?
    Are they practical (will they last/ drop goo all over your dress etc etc)
    Are they in season?
    Are they especially bad for those who suffer from allergies?
    Will you have the same for the bridesmaids and if not, what will you have and do those flowers tick all of the above boxes!
    Will you throw your bouquet or have a second one made to give away… decisions, decisions!

Make sure you sit down with your florist and ask them all of the above questions... the last thing you want is to find out the week before the wedding that your dream bouquet isn't available or that your bridesmaids are highly allergic!

To take the hard work out of some of your wedding flower planning we have identified popular choices by season so at least you can make a start.
Wedding Flowers by season
Spring:

tulips - hyacinths – blossom – narcissus – daffodils – broom – anemones – muscari – lilac
Summer:

roses – sweet peas – peonies – sunflowers – hydrangeas – delphiniums – blooms – lily of the valley
Autumn:

amaryllis – snowberry – calla lily – dahlia -celosia – oak leaf – euphorbia – orchids
Flowers for...
Brides and Bridesmaids

Don’t forget the bouquets are wedding accessories; they shouldn’t detract from the bride! Bridesmaid’s bouquets can be a variation or a contrast to the bride’s bouquet; however they are usually slightly smaller. The bridal party bouquet can also be used as a flower arrangement at the reception either on the bridal or cake tables.
Grooms and attendants

Grooms, family members and attendants the grooms and family member’s lapel pins our boutonnières are usually in line with the brides and bridesmaid wedding flowers. To make the family feel special perhaps choose a flower just for them so they stand out and your guests can easily identify (and congratulate them)
Tables

Table arrangements don’t always need to be flowers. If you are on a budget and are trying to save some money, get creative and make use of some cheaper foliage such as ivy to create your centerpieces.

Saturday, December 15, 2012